You — and by “you” I mean a sexual person with An Opinion On Asexuality — have no right to tell me that my sexuality does not exist. You have no right to suggest that it stems from a sexual trauma, a mental disorder or bad experiences. You have no right to question the validity of…
You have a gentle air of authority about you, but feel most comfortable leading others when there’s a sense of cooperation and teamwork. While your mind is rational, your thinking is unconventional and idealistic.”
I don’t really agree but I like reading this kind of fluff anyway.
“Your result for The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test …
4- the Individualist
Thanks for taking the test !
you chose BY - your Enneagram type is FOUR (aka “The Romantic”)
“I am unique”
Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.
How to Get Along with Me
• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
• Though I don’t always want to be cheered up when I’m feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
• Don’t tell me I’m too sensitive or that I’m overreacting!
What I Like About Being a FOUR
• my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
• my ability to establish warm connections with people
• admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
• my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
• being unique and being seen as unique by others
• having aesthetic sensibilities
• being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me
What’s Hard About Being a FOUR
• experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
• feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don’t deserve to be loved
• feeling guilty when I disappoint people
• feeling hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands me
• expecting too much from myself and life
• fearing being abandoned
• obsessing over resentments
• longing for what I don’t have
FOURs as Children Often
• have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
• are very sensitive
• feel that they don’t fit in
• believe they are missing something that other people have
• attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.
• become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
• feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents’ divorce)
FOURs as Parents
• help their children become who they really are
• support their children’s creativity and originality
• are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings
• are sometimes overly critical or overly protective
• are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy. Discover the 9 Types of People.
Harper: San Francisco, 1994, 161 pages”—
Transmasculine has often been a word used as a synonym to FTM. I disagree with the term (or at least how it is used).
Not all transmen are masculine, nor want to be. There’s a misconception that if one transitions they must suddenly become the next Brock Lesner (for FTMs) or Eva Longoria (for MTFs). It’s similar to how society tells cisgender men/women they have to be dirty, sweaty, football lovers/frilly, dainty, flower lovers. Those who are not are ridiculed or tormented, among other things.
Don’t gather a misunderstanding here though, there is nothing wrong with being a masculine transman or feminine transwoman if that is how you naturally are, or wish to be.
I simply disagree with “transmasculine” being used as an umbrella term for FTMs when many of us don’t identify as masculine. A FTM can be just as “feminine” as they please, as can “masculine” MTFs. Doesn’t make them less legit.
Beautiful. It’s hard enough for our culture to make it past “men act masculine and women act feminine”, but we must always keep in mind that our assumptions won’t always hold, and the world will come to finally see the absolute rainbow that is sexual and gender identity and sexual preference. <3
So true. I’m somewhat femme but that doesn’t make me a GIRL.